When it comes to freelance writing online, I’m all about hard work. I’m all about getting out there and taking massive action towards my goals. It’s great if you are too.
What I’ve realised though is that all this striving and pushing – all this moulding and sculpting and wanting – has in fact created a glass ceiling through which I can never penetrate while in the same mindset.
If you’re feeling frustrated with your freelance writing online career, has it ever occurred to you that all the goal-setting, the wishing and the striving might be causing it to stall?
This is a hard post for me to write
It’s hard because on Freelance Writers Online I’ve always advocated having confidence, taking action and going out and doing something about your freelance writing career.
I stand by that too. To a degree.
It’s also difficult because there is such a wide spectrum of people who want to make a living from freelance writing online.
Some of you may be thinking about starting a career as a freelance writer but spend most of your time making mental lists of all the reasons why you couldn’t or shouldn’t. That’s called being inactive – you’ve stalled because you’ve created things for your mind to chew over.
There’s a fine line between letting go of the baggage surrounding your goal-setting and sitting around procrastinating while playing Angry Birds all day.
At the other end of the spectrum though, there are those of you who appear to be doing everything you possibly can to become the high-earning freelance writer you want to be. You’re pitching, pushing on and projecting yourself and your career into a better future…
…and you’re essentially unhappy. Why? Because nothing seems to stick. It’s all too hit and miss. Where are you going wrong? You’re trying so, very very hard after all.
It’s for the latter that I write this post – and it’s important to tell you this in the way it came to me:
Stop standing on tip-toes.
Stop stretching and straining. Stop living in the perfect future that will never come. It will never be then – it will only ever be right now, and there’s nothing you can do about that.
So let it go.
This might be hard for you to hear, and even harder for you to put into practice perhaps, but for the best chance of being happy and successful (to a degree, at least) you’ve got to let your perfect future go.
So what do you do instead?
Well, if you want to feel like you think you’ll feel when you’re comfortably earning a full-time living from freelance writing, feel that way now. In other words, feel comfortable with everything in your life right now – not stretched and tetchy and like it’s not enough or not quite right.
Even if it all seems far from perfect in your eyes, have some faith that everything is ticking along just as it should be at this stage.
At this point, your mind will likely tell you things like: “Yes, I understand. I’ll just get to earning X amount per month from freelance writing online and I’ll definitely start thinking like that.”
“I will start feeling comfortable and satisfied with what I have… when I quit my day job. I can’t possibly be happy or feel good about myself while I’m in this horrible day job. Once I’ve saved enough or am earning enough to quit, I’ll definitely relax and start feeling happy with my situation.”
Guess what? You won’t. And the reason you won’t is because you don’t feel like that right now.
Feel good right now
What a relief it is to just let go of all those stressful feelings and feel good right in this moment. It’s like taking off a pair of shoes that were far too tight and spreading out your cramped little toes (only much, much better on every level).
The funny thing about the art of letting go is that despite it involving very little activity, as long as you’re not simply giving up – in spirit and in attitude – it usually leads to activities and results beyond your wildest imaginings.
Also, unlike other things you read online (and think you’ll put into action at a later stage) you can do this right now. Of course you may have to remind yourself of your fresh new outlook tomorrow morning when you wake up – and probably the next day too, and for many days after that. However, you can let go of all that negative yearning and wanting right now.
Just let it go.
This is why it works:
Achieving anything of value takes energy, but that energy has to be positive, and what you (and I) have been doing with all that reaching and grabbing and wanting, is pumping our freelance writing careers, our projects and our lives, full of negative energy.
It’s negative because it’s based around not being satisfied with what we already have. That’s the key: get comfy with what’s happening in your freelance writing online career and your life right now.
Don’t do nothing at all. In fact, do everything you can each day – without strain or force. Just let all the crazy-person energy go. Get done the work you know you need to do and let the results take care of themselves.
In other words, let go of all the wanting and needing and the I-just-want-to-be-there feelings. You already are exactly where you need to be.
You just don’t know it.